Sunday, April 1

A to Z Challenge : Alpha Males

Need I say more? LOL, alright I will. Let's just say I've been reading Romance for a very long time, and I've seen a shift in the perception of an alpha male. In older novels, they were often portrayed as domineering and controlling, nearly knuckle-draggers--the "I know what's best for you" type. I think publishers have realized this kind of guy is indeed NOT attractive to most readers.

Exuding confidence, self-esteem, and leadership seems to be key to being alpha. There is definitely a difference between controlling and leading. This former gives no regard to others' opinions, desires, or input while the latter involves doing what needs doing in order to succeed. If that means having the confidence to go beyond oneself for expertise or advice, then so be it. A man who can see the value in that is absolutely an alpha male to be respected.

Several sites list alpha traits (Alpha Men, How to be an Alpha Male, Masculine Freedom), but you'll see a wide variety of differences from site to site. Everyone has their own ideas, but they all really describe the same type of person. According to this article in the Wall Street Journal, there's also been some research that being alpha can be bad for your health especially if you're also a Type A personality.

Are you an alpha male or female? What traits are key to being a true alpha? Would you rather be an alpha or beta? Do you find alphas (m or f) attractive?

So, welcome to Day 1 of the Blogging from A to Z Challenge, and thank you to all of our wonderful hosts. Check out the blog for more information. Sign up before Monday night to participate. Finally, I leave you with this:


Alpha Male

14 comments:

  1. I have a taste for passive-aggressive, actually. Or so my romantic history indicates.

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  2. I've written about an alpha male, but I'm more a mixture of the two.

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  3. @Suze LOL, at least passive-aggressive are easy to deal with. You just ignore their attempts at making you feel like the bad guy!

    @Alex That may be the best of both worlds ;)

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  4. Hi, we're neighbors on the A-Z list so I thought I'd drop by. Also a new follower. Nice to meet you. As for Alpha or Beta - hmmm, don't really know.

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  5. what! i need more pictures! :) I have my days where I'm more alpha than beta and most of the time I'm attracted to the alpha guys...especially when they look like that photo!!!

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  6. You actually posted words on this page? I can't seem to get past the eye candy! lol!

    But in all seriousness, I think a good mix of both alpha and beta traits would be best.

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  7. New follower here. I’m enjoying reading my fellow “A to Z”ers. I look forward to visiting again.

    Sylvia
    http://www.writinginwonderland.blogspot.com/

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  8. In the world of greek letters I am an Alpha, I like Alpha's and I run with a pack of buffed Alphas...some attached to Betas and others single, suffice it to say I don't mix running with buffing...

    Great post! I'll be back for B...

    Jenny @ Pearson Report
    Co-Host of the Blogging from A to Z Challenge.

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  9. I always wanted an Alpha, but then it never worked out because I'm an Alpha too, and Beta's just aren't strong enough for me. So, I don't know, is there a Gamma kicking around.

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  10. I'm not an Alpha and I'm not attracted to Alpha men. But I do need to be with someone a bit more assertive than I am, because inertia becomes my best friend if I let it.

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  11. I like Alphas that view themselves as Betas. I like that they suppose they could take control of a situation if they wanted to, but unlike some Alphas, the reason for doing so is less vanity/need for control and more...philosophical? (idk what I'd call it exactly) They act on reasons they weigh out carefully, and if need be an Alpha reaction is more of a reflex and not a lifestyle. I think a lot of Alphas are running around in Beta clothing by choice. And sometimes it's somewhat detectable. that is what I am attracted to.

    Oh yeah, I miss you too :) and i love the picture lol Oh wait one more thing, as far as Alpha men and women- they are only attractive when they aren't overly into themselves. I like "Humble Alphas" if such a thing exists. Excess vanity is one of the most disgusting things I've ever seen. So if an Alpha man or woman can balance a healthy ego, but keep it under reigns its AWESOMELY ATTRACTIVE in so many ways!

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  12. Hm.. I'd say I'm an alpha, but not necessarily in an overly domineering way. I just know how to lead and get thrown into leadership type roles more often than not. :-)

    And yes, I like alpha guys, but true ones. Not arrogant pricks. Not insecure babies pretending to be tough. People with real confidence in who they are without needing to prove it or bring others down to look bigger.

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  13. I guess I'm more of a beta and gravitate to being with alphas. Nice post.

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  14. Great post! I think confidence, leadership and self-esteem are better ways of describing a truly alpha person. When people display these qualities to an extreme and have too much ego and unresolved issues, you get the former definition. But the more balanced alpha of today, as you describe, is far more attractive.

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